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What Is Healing Your Grief?

"I have been trying to make the best of grief and am just learning to allow it to make the best of me." ~Barbra Lazear Ascher

At first, I thought I would be in a bottomless grief pit forever. I felt lost in my sorrow. As I look back, I have learned in a different way about reconciling grief and steps to heal.

What is healing your grief?

Becoming whole again is to heal as you reconcile your grief. Some grief experiences leave one with a changed condition forever. The challenge is learning life in your changed condition. The healing is in the reconciling your sorrow and experiencing a new wholeness. Healing is an all inclusive requirement. Embracing physical, emotional, mental, social, and spiritual conditions are required. It takes an absolute commitment to heal your grief.

The healing is in the reconciling of your new changed condition. You can reconcile yourself to your grief. Yet, my personal experience tells me that a complete return to what I might deem normal is not entirely possible. Professionally as a grief relief specialist, and coach I have counseled others that they are forever changed by their grief happening. Achieving reconciliation requires a search for a renewed purpose and meaning. Hope for a better situation must emerge and a commitment to a future fullness. As your grief relief journey unfolds you can't expect to return to your old life but the awareness of a new normal is vital. Learning how to become re-involved in the activities of living your new life is essential. To stop grieving and start healing you must realize your grief heals by degrees as you take important steps forward to reconcile your grief. You can discover that if you desire a new wholeness again, commitment to work through your grief is essential. A search for self-improvement must be a constant in your healing efforts.

"To suppress the grief, the pain, is to condemn oneself to a living death. Living fully means feeling fully; it means being completely one with what you are experiencing and not holding it at arm's length." ~Philip Kapleau

As you journey through grief and find your way you must accept the need to work through your mourning. In order to reconcile your grief requires intentional mourning what has forever changed in your condition. Writing about the sorrow you are experiencing in your diary or journey can help you get on the other side of your grief. Don't censor your thoughts but write the undeleted mourning you experience. Vocalize your grieving to anyone who will listen. Crying about what or who you lost is a healing step. There is no shame in tears. Pondering your new you, your new changed condition will help you move forward toward a wholeness. Hope for a better life will emerge as you make efforts to understand and meet your mourning needs.

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Mimi Rothschild

Mimi Rothschild is the Founder and CEO of the Global Grief Institute which provides Certification training programs forGrief Coach, Trauma Coach, End of Life Coach, and Children's Grief Coach. She is a survivor who has buried 3 of her children and her husband of 33 years. She is available for speaking engagements and comments to the press on any issue surrounding thriving after catastrophic loss. MEDIA INQUIRIES:

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