Grief and bereavement are among the most challenging experiences each of us has to face at one time or another in our life. If you come away from this article with only one message, I hope you come to understand that you can be gentle with yourself as you move through the complex stages of grieving.People commonly comment:
"I feel like I've been hit with a ton of bricks.""I feel I'm on an emotional rollercoaster, with frequent, unexpected and unpredictable ups, downs and sudden shifts that are terribly unsettling.""Every time I feel like I've sorted myself out, along comes another wave of emotions I have to deal with.""My family and friends don't know how to respond to me any more because I'm such an emotional firecracker."
With better understanding of the grief process, and learning the tools and skills you will learn in this WHEE BOOK, you will find you are able to markedly lessen your pain and suffering as you move through the grief process. The good news is that when faced with the inevitable, we may find ourselves experiencing intense emotions that we never imagined we would or could feel. And these emotions can be cleansing – providing releases from attachments and memories that are no longer possible to resolve with the person who is no longer with us.The further good news is that we may experience enormous emotional and spiritual growth in our journeys through grief and bereavement. Learning to experience and sort out our sadness, angers and guilts that are aspects of the normal grief experience can be enormously beneficial in the long run.The bad news is that these are often painful experiences, which we might rather choose to avoid – if we had the choice. These inevitable and unavoidable challenges along the road of life may, however, be so painful that we cannot ignore them. When we do push them aside or detour around them, we may find that we are emotionally and physically drained and that these burdens of grief are increasingly difficult to bear.
5 It can be ever so tempting to bury and ignore these troublesome feelings.While this may be at some times in our lives a necessary response in order to carry on with our duties and responsibilities, if not with a fight for survival, it is a response that is fraught with many dangers.Griefs that are buried often evolve into emotional time bombs that can become increasingly dangerous to our normal lives, on many levels of our beingness. It requires considerable effort to keep the unwanted feelings and memories buried outside our conscious awareness. This is a drain on our energies. We also protect ourselves by avoiding relationships and situations that resonate with the buried, unresolved grief experiences – our unconscious mind always on the alert lest issues and feelings in the current situation resonate with the buried materials and set off a bomb that it fears will be overwhelming. Our lives may become narrowed and constricted as a result of these defensive maneuvers.Other parts of our unconscious mind understand that these buried bombs are an unhealthy burden to be carrying around with us. Signals are sent from healing parts of our unconscious mind to draw our attention to the buried feelings and memories that need clearing. These signals may include troubled dreams, physical symptoms, or unusual, excessively strong responses to various triggers in our current lives.In this e-Book on grief and bereavement you can explore many avenues for dealing with challenging psychological and physical issues through wholistic affirmations for self-healing
.A shift on any one level facilitates wholistic shifts on all of the others. When we relax physically, we have an easier time relaxing mentally and emotionally.When we meditate, we focus and discipline our mind; we also relax, learn to choose when and how much to engage our awareness with our emotions; and we may open to spiritual awareness and healing. Being open to changing on all of these levels and using self-healing practices to help access our resources on each level can markedly facilitate our self-healing.From the other side of the mind-body connection, our inner self may speak to us through our body. For instance, when tensions are building up in our mind or relationships, we may get 'up tight' and then start to get headaches, backaches or stomach cramps. Listening to our body mind when it speaks to us in such ways can waken us to de-stress our psychological tensions, thereby relieving the tensions in our body.
6 We are made of atoms and chemicals, but we also have biological energiesthat guide our inner processes. Einstein pointed this out, early in the lastcentury. Modern physics has confirmed that this is correct. Matter andenergies are actually two sides of the same thing. Conventional medicine hasbeen very slow to absorb that our bodies can be understood and treated asenergy. Wholistic healing also helps through energy medicine, the art andscience of biological energies (bioenergies).
There are many other aspects of wholistic healing. Our mind is an amazing biological computer that contains inner knowledge and stores memories of what is going on inside us.We know through our unconscious mind what is going on in part of our being. These e-Books teach you ways to get in touch with your inner wisdom, to explore and explain what is going on in your life and to help you find the best ways to deal with your problems at every level of your being.
You may choose to live your life in new and exciting ways. Your symptoms and problems need not be scourges to be eradicated. Using medications to deal with symptoms of grief and bereavement may in effect be a way of silencing the messenger who is bringing you uncomfortable news that something inside you is out of harmony, or a method to deaden your responses to these messages. While it may seem to you that the lightening of your burden of grief is a difficult challenge, many grateful users report it has completely transformed their bereavement process and their lives. What is particularly helpful is that Grief Coaches casn helps you to replace the hurts of grief with positive thoughts and feelings. Why can't we get all the people together in the worldt hat we really like and then just stay together? I guess that wouldn't work. Someone would leave. Someone always leaves. Then we would have to say good-bye. I hate good-byes. I know what I need. I need more hellos. - Charles