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Dealing With Death


must admit the subject of death is not one that I am very comfortable with. My family has dealt with much death over the course of the past few years. First there was the death of my best friend's brother, a year later, almost to the day, my best friend died. Then there was the death of several old co-workers. After this we dealt with the death of my thirty-two year old nephew, my wife's mother, and then my wife's best friend. Death is not easy to deal with, but it is something that every one of has to deal with sooner or later. It seems the older we get, the more we notice, that death is all around us. How do we deal with death? Another good question might be why do we have to deal with death?

The answer to why we have to deal with death is a simple one. Sin. The Bible says because of Adam's sin, death came upon everyone. Romans 5:12 speaks of the result of Adam's sin, Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned: Because of the sin of disobedience, death was passed onto everyone of us. If you notice it said death was not in the world until sin entered the picture, sin entered into the world, and death by sin. This tells me that if sin had not entered into the world, there would have been no death. Another thing to think about is, when God makes something, it is made perfect. Though man was made perfect, man also chose to become imperfect by disobeying God. Adam had one simple commandment, But of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die. Genesis 2:17. I know some have said this verse meant that Adam would die the very same day, but that is not what God is implying here at all. What is implied here, is that in the day Adam becomes disobedient, death would then come into the world. So in one aspect we can blame Adam for death, but we also have to remember who tempted Eve in the first place. If satan had never thought himself to be higher than God none of this would have happened. Again, sin is the reason we have death.

How do we deal with death, this question is not as simple to answer. We deal with death by drawing closer to the Lord. But each individual person does this in their own way. What about those that don't know the Lord though, how do they deal with it? One way most of the lost do not want to deal with death is by hearing about heaven and hell. This will generally drive the lost even further away from God. What we as Christians must do in this case is give the person time to morn before we talk to them about Jesus. Does death open this door, many times yes, and many times it does not. This is where we have to use the discernment of the Holy Spirit as to when to speak, and when not to speak to them about Jesus and heaven. The best way I know of to deal with the lost in this situation is to just be there for them and listen. Let them know that you're there for them, if they need to talk. Simply be their friend during this time.

As for Christians dealing with deal, I would have to say about the same thing. Just be there for them. Tell them you're there for them when they need you. With Christians however, you can give them the comfort of the scriptures. We must again though use the discerning power of the Holy Spirit to know what and when to say anything. I know from my own experiences of dealing death, that the best medicine, aside from the Lord, was just someone to be there with me and give me a shoulder to lean on.

Everyone deals with death differently and in their own way. The best way to help someone dealing with the death of a loved one or a friend is to just be there for them when they need you. Give them the reminder that you are here to listen and do whatever you can to help. Most of the time words are just words to the saved and the lost during this time. Be patient and the Lord will give you the right words at the right time.

Psalm 23A Psalm of David. The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want. He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters. He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake. Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me. Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the LORD for ever.

I am an evangelist from North Carolina preaching to the lost as well as the saved. My goal in life is to show others the amazing love of God and to help show his existence. You can visit us at our web site at []

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Mimi Rothschild

Mimi Rothschild is the Founder and CEO of the Global Grief Institute which provides Certification training programs forGrief Coach, Trauma Coach, End of Life Coach, and Children's Grief Coach. She is a survivor who has buried 3 of her children and her husband of 33 years. She is available for speaking engagements and comments to the press on any issue surrounding thriving after catastrophic loss. MEDIA INQUIRIES:

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