ATTITUDES OF A SUCCESSFUL GRIEF COACH Part 2 by Mimi Rothschild
Embrace the individual and push for positive behavioral and attitude shifts.
Have you ever been told that what you said or did was 'wrong' by another person? Although we may want to think that good and evil are generally acknowledged, the reality is that cultural norms and individual beliefs about what is good and terrible vary greatly from place to place. Right and evil are relative concepts, with each of us imposing our own moral code on our perceptions of how others should act.
Life coaches should opt to detach themselves from the moral judgments of their clients. While it's true that certain people's actions and behaviors may be unacceptable, it's important to remember that those traits are not intrinsic to the individual and may evolve through time. After being criticized for their conduct, people often internalize the criticism and come to believe that they are flawed as a person.
FAILURE DOESN'T EXIST; ALL THAT EXISTS IS FEEDBACK TO BE GAINED.
Consider the many times you've fallen short of expectations. Some individuals see failure positively, while others view it as a horrific experience that should be avoided at all costs. People who have a pessimistic outlook on failure are also likely to think that their past is indicative of their future, leading them to assume that they are doomed to perpetually fail in all their endeavors. Because of this outlook, people are unable to learn and develop to their full potential. Changing how we feel about setbacks may provide us with a stronger basis from which to construct our lives.